3 Ways to Raise Resilient Kids
All parents want their kids to grow up happy, brave, kind and strong, but what about growing to be a resilient adult? Having resilience is highly important in shaping your child’s development in their early years and will prepare him or her for anything life throws at them in future during adulthood.
Learning how to be resilient during their early years can help children develop essential psychological mechanisms for protection against overwhelming or stressful events in their lives in future. Other than protecting them, resilience gives your children the “fighting spirit” to get back on their feet after a setback by helping them maintain motivation with a more positive outlook of life. Read on to find out how you can go about moulding resilient children into resilient adults.
1. Encourage New Experiences
This might sound outlandish, but why not try letting go and caring less. Yes, we said that - care less. Children might fall down once in a while but they get back up and they get over it. They might cry and get hurt, but take the opportunity to teach them how to learn from their mistakes to prevent them from getting hurt again. The sooner parents learn to loosen their grip, the sooner their children can learn how to manage risks.
Of course, you should keep your children safe at all times, but we shouldn’t discourage them from having new experiences because of our own personal fears. Allow them to try new activities and experience failures but within safe boundaries. The fact is as children are repeatedly advised to avoid new experiences due to risks involved, they internalise the message that they are not strong enough to handle challenges. On the flip side, taking risks and learning from their mistakes can encourage them to push themselves in the face of hardship and teach them how to manage pain.
2. Focus on Processes, Not Results
It is no surprise that Singaporean parents are one to be swayed by results too easily, but as parents, we have to understand that while results are important to us, it might not be our child’s priority. When parents get too focused on end results, our children’s growth takes a back seat and as a result, important values that can be taught through failures can be neglected.
Instead of focusing on outcomes, encourage your child to embrace their mistakes in life and promote a mindset for continuous growth instead of just chasing accolades. Ask them to share with you their toughest moments during the process, the setbacks they faced and how they plan to overcome them.
By throwing these questions to your child, it will build problem-solving skills and a belief that he or she can solve their own problems, leading to resiliency over time.
3. Teach Your Kids Problem-solving Skills
Building a strong relationship with your child is essential to instil resilience in them. One-on-one time can be especially helpful in this case as it allows your child to confide in you and feel empowered to seek advice from you. During this time when your child is being vulnerable with you, allow them to arrive at the solutions to their problems by themselves, instead of spoon-feeding them with answers. Such positive connections will deepen your relationship with your child and help instil resilience in them in the long run.
On top of building a strong relationship, parents can also lead by example by sharing their vulnerabilities with their kids and how they overcome their own obstacles in life.
Kidchamp Will be on This Journey With You
Here at Kidchamp, we care for all children and we want to empower all parents to be able to equip their kids with important life skills and values to help them build resilience and grow up to be strong-willed, motivated adults.
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